How To Be Confident?
I always see people in their eyes being interested to ask other people something, mostly favors, but end up being disappointed because it never happens. This usually comes to people wanted to ask someone that they are not really bonded too. Most of their reasons are because they are shy. But is it really because they are shy?
I doubt that being shy is the reason. They just use that term because it is the mostly used reason of all. I highly believe it is because they are just embarrassed of something. They were embarrassed that they may look stupid, sound pathetic, or maybe because they do not look so good.
I have been noticing this today as I think of what to share. Like, my mom asking me to ask the person who pass by if they are the one was waiting for. This happens to me most of my life, even when I was still a toddler. Yep, I just remember my classmate pushed me to always do the task of talking to other people, especially when we need to explain something wrong that happen to the elders.
Probably I was gifted to be confident all my life. But I thought twice, I am not. Before, I maybe confident talking to other people, but I totally screw up with girls. Yep, I was no good when it comes to girls. So, I decided to share what I did to be confident on the things I was not confident enough. This tips I will share may not just be used for meeting girls, but to know how to approach other people. So here I go:
- Know Why You Are Not Confident – First things first, find the source of your lack of confidence. Many have been neglecting the fact that there are reasons for everything in this world. Most people would just reason out that they are not born with it, which is merely a stupid reason. Many said it was with me because of genes, because my dad had a strong PR. But what about my mother side, was it from them why I was not confident enough with girls? Wrong! The reason why I was not confident enough with girls is because I was not exposed to girls that much. It was true that my cousins were all girls, but I was not sweet with them at all. We just fight, and never get to see the girl side of them. Even growing up in school, I just hang around with my buddies. And since I was not that cute enough during puberty due to being sweaty and maybe smelly, girls would just stay away from me. This is another reason why I was not confident with them.
So, I got my source. First I was not exposing to them, and then I was not cute enough for them because I was not neat enough. Have you already realize why you are not confident on something?
- Find A Way To Be Confident, Change!!! – Now that you know your source, fix it! There is only one thing permanent in this world, and that is changes. Never ever think that it is hard to change, because it only takes time, but it is really as easy as it sounds. It is just in our nature that we are really impatient. It will just be easy because I am sure that there are tips and advices out there in almost every situation. They have Expert Studies, internet, books, and most reliable source is elderly experiences. Take sides and opinions, then evaluate what suite you. You cannot just do what he said is right, because you are uniquely you. Their experiences maybe quite different, because their time is different from ours. Are they using cell phones? No! So use their advice as metaphor, and stand on your own.
And as for me, I read magazines that girls love to read, I try to know how they react on things, what they would want, and how should it be done. So I clean up my self, avoid getting sweaty and smelly, started to dress up properly. And with these fixed up, I got confident that lets me be able to approach them. By just fixing what is in lack of me.
- Believe And Be Happy That It Can Be Done, Get The Inspiration – This could be a little hard part, but not that really hard. The situation is mind over matter. So set your mind to be free, think positive. But, if there was a trauma, it could lose your wit and belief. So, what could be a good solution? Get some inspiration. Watch a movie flick, read books, talk to some supportive friends, prep up. Have the time of your life!!! I may not have a hard part doing this on my situation because I just get my inspiration on watching movies, or T.V. series. All thou, that is not just what I did. Some new friends I met actually helped me to over come this phase. They bring me to parties, showed me how it’s done, and shared thoughts and inspiration from others (Not just with guys, but with other friendly girls as well)
- Just Do It! – Do I even need to explain this more? Just do it. Nothing is going to happen if you won’t try at all. There is no sense of doing the preparation if it cannot be done. It is just like cooking a special dinner, but no ones going to eat it. Since you have believed it can be done, just keep those feelings and there will be no problem. So I am neat and smart enough, I was able to start the conversation. Actually, there are techniques I acquired when I was reading girls magazines, which I don’t know if I’ll share some times, or just keep it a guys secret (How To Make A Girl Interested In Talking With You). I started talking with them before by the phone, then came up texting, then chatting on the internet, and right now I am into blogging. I keep exposing my self with girls. And of course, these stuffs allowed me to talk to anyone I want now.
Unlike before, when I am in a conversation, it just cut off. But now, I know how to make a mood swing, although it took some real practice. He he he
- Learn More – Don’t just stop being confident into one thing. Your life is not limited to. People’s nature is not bound to be satisfied with what they get, so don’t be left over. You don’t want to just be just confident one time, but keep it forever. Getting to know the buzz, or knowing other peoples interest can help you keep up with them, especially on conversation. You can actually by pass my other tips. Because if you know what to do or say, you are definitely going to be confident always!!!
ang dmi mo snb ang sagot ko lng jan is..
KAPALAN MO KASI MUKA MO AHHAHAHA
weeeh…
being confident is a big leap…
sometimes a person dies na, yet has no confidence in himself…
before being confident, you must first accept yourself for who you are, because of that reason, your innate beauty will come out and that will make you feel better…
yippie! ;;) ;;) ;;)
You know……… I find this really helpful. I can’t approach this guy I like and I still can’t approach him!! hahaha. :]
patama ata sakin toh, i am not that confident pa naman, I always pushed others when it comes to approaching people. Im not used to it. hehe..
may point ka din, if you want to be confident, dapat it should not lasts for that day only, make it lasts forever.
Yah. You’re right. All the things you said are exactly the things I need to do. Bata palang ako, shy na ako, which is panget na attitude because it sometimes signifies a person being weak.
Would you believe na sa sobrang kahiyaan ko, kahit sa sari-sari store sa tabi ng house namin (imagine the proximity) hindi pa ako makabili ng something na I wanted to have. Ganun ako ka-shy. Sometimes, I’m a LOSER.
wow, thanks for this. sapul ako dito ah. kaya lang ewan ko ba bakti ako sobrang mahiyain minsan, basta kapag may mga gathering or what so ever, stay nalang ako sa bahay, kesa makihalubilo, hindi kasi ako comfortable minsan kapag maraming tao
Thanks sa info. HAHA. This one’s a big helpp. Being confident.
My prom is on 3 Dec. I am buying my prom dress early because I feared that I may not have the time to buy it while I’m working.
And my fears had came through. I’m getting busy again due to work.
I understand all the constructive advice you’ve given me. I agree
This isn’t my best layout, but it’s okay 
Hmm, ooh well! some peple are just really SHY , =D or yeah probably they’re embarrass ? but whatever!! Nice post
Self-Confident is the best thing, thanks for sharing 
This is excellently written I must say
I agree with you on what you are saying, this is normally the bit where there is a but… BUT with yours there isn’t a but. Well not a bad disagreeing but.
And about finding a new server (I hate starting a sentence with and but it seemed to fit) I can’t because paradehosting and hostnsurf are hosting both my domain name and space so unless someone can host it for free then I am stuck
waah! pantot! gulat ka no!? wala lang daan lang… my comment on your post….’hmmm no comment at all since I dont have that confident you are talking about… most of the comments are correct is too hard to be confident ‘vash but we have to learn how to be one… sana nga matutunan ko na yun! hahaha! hey! I did it visit my online shop in multiply… the layout sucks but still working on it… http://www.poliescorner.multiply.com :peace: